Thursday, August 16, 2018

The Lesbo-less Mrs. Maisel

So, are they gonna go ahead and make Susie a lesbian in Season 2 or what? I really enjoyed the first season of “The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.” It was fun and punchy and very funny. One of the things I’ve enjoyed most (beside Rachel Brosnahan’s everything as Midge) is Alex Borstein’s portrayal of Midge’s manager and obvious lesbian Susie Myerson. Now, there are a lot of things you could probably do to improve the show (chief among them adding more POC to the cast in significant roles and not just “Jazz Musician #2”), but giving Susie more of a backstory and owning up to her unmistakable queerness is right up there. I mean come on, look at Susie. She isn’t a 100-footer, she is a 200-footer. Also this is 1959 America. No woman dressed like back then that who isn’t an out proud gay lady. So, yeah, let’s get happy and witty and gay in Season 2, show.

p.s. Since they’re going to the Catskills there had better be at least one sly, “Nobody puts baby in a corner” reference.

p.p.s. I would also accept a joke about carrying watermelons.

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Love, Decency

In these hateful and hurtful times, I think we hunger for decency. For people with integrity. For people who inspire. For people who blazed trails and made a difference. For people who care. For people who are kind. I feel the same way about this new Gilda Radner documentary that I did for Mr. Rogers and his cry-through-the-whole-damn-thing documentary earlier this year. She was such an inspiration to generation of comics and women and women comics and women who aren’t comics but sometimes get off a funny line here and there. Her passing at age 42 from ovarian cancer means we were robbed all those years of her brilliance. And it’s also a reminder that before we do some ridiculous, astronomically expensive boondoggle like create a Space Force, how about we invest in medical research and give every American adequate healthcare? I dunno, just a thought.

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Step Into Yourself

Appearance, particularly in the LGBT community, is fraught with meaning and political overtones. What does it mean to visibly present as queer, to be visibly butch or visibly andro or visibly trans. What does it mean to us within the community and to the straight world outside when we are seen, instantly, a certain way. But freedom, true freedom, is the ability to look and act and be however we want – no matter what the rest of the world of our LGBT friends think. Of course, that is the tricky bit. Be yourself is simple to say, hard to do.

Still when you see someone come into themselves, and finally feel completely comfortable in her/his/their own skin – well, that’s such a magnificent feeling and such a beautiful moment.

I love (love, love, loved) Lena Waithe’s thoughtful, powerful explanation for cutting her hair. What could have just been a glib red carpet interview turned into a profound statement of truth and intent.

“I felt like I was holding onto a piece of femininity that would make the world feel comfortable with who I am….

When I cut it I felt so free and so happy and so joyful. And I really stepped into myself. And if people call me a butch or say she is stud or call me sir out in the world, so what. So be it…

I am here with a Prada suit on, not a stitch of makeup and a haircut. I feel like, why can’t I exist in the world in that way?”
Why can’t I exist in the world in that way, indeed.

Monday, August 13, 2018

Cruel, Cruel Summer

In our new political climate every day seems like a month. So, naturally, this summer has seemed particularly long. Here to bring a little joy to all the heat and horror, here is Bananarama singing “Cruel Summer” circa 1984. I absolutely adored Bananarama and played their cassette tape to a nub when I was a kid. Yes, I said cassette tape. Happy Monday, kittens, may it be a good and less infernally long week.

Friday, August 10, 2018

My Weekend Crush

Have you ever wanted to live inside a picture? Like this one? Or this one? Or maybe this one? Well I’m pretty sure life would be amazing in this fanart poster by Instagrammer loubbie.isreal for “Ocean’s 9.” Like, all the lawns are green and everyone recycles and no one agrees with Nazis and Donald Trump had a near death experience choking on his overcooked steak with ketchup and changed his life to become a marine biologist to challenge his lifelong fear of sharks and nobody heard from him ever again. And we all lived happily ever after. Happy weekend, all.

Thursday, August 09, 2018

A Rose By Any Other Bat

A funny thing happens when we get what we’ve been asking for. Sometimes, we’re still not happy. Earlier this week it was announced that Ruby Rose had been cast as Batwoman for a crossover and then stand-alone series about the superhero for The CW. You may recall that casting for the role has looked for an out lesbian actress to play the out lesbian superhero, a.k.a. Kate Kane.

Now, I’m not a Ruby Rose stan. But I’m not a Ruby Rose hater either. I am glad an out actress with some star power has been cast in the role. It might help attract more viewers to a show that will probably have a niche audience, at least to start. And, let’s be honest, her face is undeniably not bad.

Do I have some questions about her acting abilities? Sure. But she also hasn’t been cast in the greatest roles. I actually liked her in “John Wick 2,” though to be fair she does not talk at all in the film – just scowl and make hand gestures. She was OK in “Orange Is the New Black,” but to be fair she was mostly there to look pretty and make Alex Vause jealous.

But I think she could do fine, perhaps well even, as a Batwoman. She has displayed some good physicality in “John Wick 2” and got chewed up by the turbine exceptionally in “Resident Evil: The Final Chapter.” Granted, I am not a Batwoman expert. I know when the modern Batwoman debuted around 2006 as an out lesbian who got kicked out of military school for being gay and now is a street fighter on a mission of social justice. And she has long flowing red hair. But, you know, wigs exist so we’re fine.

This casting has apparently set off a torrent of unhappy gay lady reactions on Twitter and elsewhere. Many centered around her acting skills. Others complaining she was an obvious choice – which is kind of funny because there was a time not so very long ago that there were zero obvious choices when it come to out lesbian actresses. And then some seemed to be mad, I think, that she was too traditionally attractive and therefore dudes (and straight gals) dig her too much.

For what it is worth, Batwoman co-creator Greg Rucka seemed pretty cool with Ruby Rose as Batwoman.

Look, are there other actresses they could have found for the role – certainly. I’ll put in my plug for more diversity, always. But, again, I have no real issue with Ruby Rose. This isn’t Shakespeare; it’s a superhero show. And, as a person, I do not believe Ruby Rose has done anything so heinous to have scorn heaped on her by the community. To my knowledge she hasn’t stolen trans roles or played a white-washed character or dated union-busting tech billionaires or said we need to give Donald Trump a chance or anything similarly morally repugnant. She’s just been in some movies that weren’t possibly the greatest. That’s not a sin, that’s Hollywood.

p.s. While Ruby may have posted (and then promptly deleted) some dumb Instagram comment buried in a thread of comments about Lovato back in 2013 (and outing isn’t good, obviously), they appear to be extremely friendly and very supportive today. So, again, it doesn’t seem an unforgiveable offense. Stupid and thoughtless, maybe. Also, people really read deep into celebrities Insta comments? Who knew.

Wednesday, August 08, 2018

It's Jane's World

Back in 1998, for those among us who can remember that far, it wasn’t a super awesome time to be a gay lady. Ellen’s TV show had just been cancelled. “The L Word” wasn’t a thing yet. Rosie, Portia, Jodie and Wanda weren’t out yet. And AfterEllen (may it R.I.P.) and Autostraddle definitely weren’t things yet. All we had were Melissa and k.d. and Martina. And, for some of us, Jane. You know Jane Wyatt, the bespectacled short-haired, swoopy-banged blonde lesbian who was perpetually bad at dating? Yeah, that Jane.

The syndicated online comic strip “Jane’s World” by Paige Braddock debuted in 1998 and was a favorite and a staple for me back in the day. It was one of my lifelines to lesbianism in those nascent days of finding my community. And it remains an impressive not to mention historic achievement. In 2001 it became the first LGBTQ-themed comic strip to receive national media syndication through (now on You can read fresh “Jane’s World” comics there to this day. Right now. Seriously, go do it.

Now, to commemorate its 20th anniversary, Paige is releasing an anthology retrospective called “Love Letters to Jane's World.” Besides offering a collection of the strips, it also features fan stories and letters about the comic and characters. The book it available starting today at comic stores and Aug. 21 at bookstores and online. Paige, by the way, keeps rather busy between her comic, being the Chief Creative Officer at Charles M. Schulz Creative Associates, and writing a line of graphic novels for kids.

So consider this my own little love letter to “Jane’s World.” I, too, had a crush on Trinity Chelle, like everyone else. And, of course, it doesn’t hurt that Jane’s best friend’s name is Dorothy.

Tuesday, August 07, 2018

Monster Mash

Can I share a little secret? I love big, outrageous disaster and monster movies. What can I say, I have a soft spot for the end of the world. The only problem, of course, is with monster movies I tend to root for the monster instead of the humans. Puny humans. Mind you, not all of the monsters, just the ones who are just tragically misunderstood à la King Kong. So I’m not going to lie I’m weirdly excited about this new Godzilla movie, “Godzilla: King of the Monsters.” Not only because of the big monsters and apocalypse thing, but also Millie Bobby Brown (a.k.a. Eleven), Vera Farmiga (a.k.a. the reason I watched “Bates Motel” longer than I should have), Sally Hawkins (a.k.a. the actress who is best know for falling in love with a fish, but lesbians already knew and loved for playing a gay lady in not one but two Sarah Waters adaptations), and Zhang Ziyi (a.k.a. a reminder that Hollywood films have been terrible at hiring and spotlighting Asian actresses). So, anyway, if we make it to 2019 (I mean, at this rate it’s not a given, folks) I am very much looking to eating a whole bunch of popcorn and watching monsters take over the Earth.

Monday, August 06, 2018

Lizzie Borden Took A Lady Lover

Fetch me my axe, ladies, I’ve got some grinding to do. Actually, nix the axe. I’d probably just cut off my own arm. But, I am rather enjoying this new take on the Lizzie Borden story. You know the one – where Lizzie Borden took an axe and gave all those whacks. Except this time Lizzie Borden is Chloe Sevigny and the family’s maid Bridget Sullivan is played by Kristen Stewart. Oh, and did I mention they’re lover? Yeah, it’s like that.

From the trailer the film has a real “Dolores Claiborne” vibe but with an axe instead of an eclipse and with lesbianism instead of mother-daughter estrangement. I don’t know whether this will be any good but already it seems it has to be better than the pretty terrible Lifetime movie “Lizzie Borden Took an Ax.” Because that was truly bad, and not good bad.

May Lizzie and Bridget and their axe live happily ever after and never, ever have to eat pigeon again.

Friday, August 03, 2018

My Weekend Crush

I am almost at “Ocean’s 8” level excited for “The Spy Who Dumped Me.” (Now if they somehow managed to sneak Cate Blanchett into the movie, then I’d be a full 8 on the Excited Gay Lady scale.) Why the excitement you ask? Well, Kate McKinnon, Mila Kunis and Gillian Anderson certainly don’t hurt. As do Kate McKinnon in a tank top and suspenders. Kate McKinnon in a suit and tie. And Gillian Anderson, period.

Plus it has a female director and co-writer in Susanna Fogel. Now gay ladies might remember Susanna as the straight half of the gay lady/straight lady best friends comedy web series “Joni & Susanna” from about 10 years ago. Or, gay ladies will recognize her as the writer and director of “Life Partners,” the about gay lady/straight lady best friends.

But wait, before you can say, “Hey, that seems familiar,” consider the premise of “The Spy Who Dumped Me.” In it a straight lady played by Mila Kunis is dating a dude spy who dumps her so she goes to Europe with her sexually ambiguous BFF played by out actress Kate McKinnon who likes to wear tanks tops and suspenders and/or suits and ties to save the world. Now, I cannot confirm Kate’s character’s sexuality in the film. But The Advocate calls her “Your Lesbian BFF” in the movie. Sooooo.

Now, alas, Fogel told The Advocate that Kate’s character isn’t explicitly queer, but “it’s sort of obvious to most people that she’s not straight-identifying.” Granted, it is disappointing that she didn’t go ahead and make Kate’s BFF character gay. The “everyone knows it anyway, nudge-wink” gets a little old in light of the miniscule representation of LGBTQ people in mainstream films. Just say it. Own it. Embrace it.

I mean, Kate’s all but screaming it in the trailers. But then, I think her fangirl gushing is probably how any woman would respond to being in the presence of Gillian Anderson – lesbian, straight, bi, trans, whathaveyou. I mean, it’s Gillian Anderson as “the Beyoncé of the government.” Respect. Happy getting dumped by a spy weekend, all.

Thursday, August 02, 2018

The (Post-Apocalyptic) Future Is Female

This is the future that lesbians want. No, seriously, when the shit goes down I want these three women coming at it to kick its ass. Also maybe Cate Blanchett and Tessa Thompson – but let’s not get greedy.

Yesterday the first official look at the new “Terminator” film was released and it featured its stars original badass Linda Hamilton back where she should be as Sarah Connor, San Junipero’s wallflower Mackenzie Davis as newly swolle soldier/possible android/what do those markings mean and newcomer Natalia Reyes. The future is female indeed!

Also, is this what the kids today call a Glow Up?

Also also, seriously, what is up with these lines on her body?

Of course, this revelation has caused manbabies to lose their shit. Three women and no men? What is this? Anarchy? Socialism? Impossible because men are the true heroes of the universe, duh? Oh, delicious, delicious angry fanboys.

Now, their ire is ridiculous, as always. Arnold will be back, of course, as The Terminator. And the film also stars Diego Boneta (as Natalia’s character’s brother) and Gabriel Luna (as a Terminator). So that seems like a lot of dudes, so relax dudes, you will be represented. You know, unlike the representation of LGBTQ people, women, people of color and people with disabilities onscreen in Hollywood. (Though, I will note that half of the lead cast appears to be Latinx, which is kind of wonderful for a big budget franchise like this.)

Even more indicative of how bro-tastic this movie will still be – despite its three prominent female leads – is what’s happening behind the camera. T6 will be executive produced by “Terminator” franchise creator James Cameron. It will be directed by “Deadpool” auteur Tim Miller. And it will be written by “Batman v Superman: Dawn of Justice” scribe David Goyer.

So, yeah, relax fellas, you’re extremely well represented in a world struggling to fight against the dystopian robot future of your own making. Please, just let us enjoy all of these ladies in their tank tops and badassery.

Wednesday, August 01, 2018

Tea, Cake & Consent

Two things: One, I love Aisha Tyler. She’s just so fantastic. And two, I cannot believe in this age of The Reckoning and #MeToo (buh-bye Les, Harvey, Kevin, Matt, Louis, et al those garbage men) that we still have to explain consent to people. Consent is not hard. With anything else – be it tea or cake – it’s pretty easy to figure out if someone is consenting. But somehow when it comes to sex all of a sudden folks who definitely know better seem baffled. But in the end, it’s as simple as communicating with your partner, listening to what your partner says and never assuming you know what he, she or them want or will allow. Not that hard really. Now, who wants some cake? With tea, only if you want it, obviously.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Lesbian Bat Signal

Holy Bat Ladies, Batman! We are getting not one, but two female Bat-related heroes soon on the large and small screens. A Batgirl movie and a Batwoman TV show.

According to reporters, the Batwoman series will make our heroine super duper gay, as she is in the comics. And, to add to the awesomeness, they are even looking for a lesbian actress to play the part. Holy amazing representation, Batwoman!

Meanwhile the Batgirl movie was going to be helmed by Joss Whedon, but he has since dropped out, and now will he written at least by a female scriptwriter.

I’m all for more lady superheroes in the world and on our screens. And I am especially all for more lesbian superheroes being played by lesbian actresses. (I also hope, like in the “auditions” above, a minimum of three out queer ladies are considered for the Batgirl role because we deserve it, duh.) So huzzah to this twofer Bat lady news and break out the Lesbian Bat Signal, but for real this time.

Monday, July 30, 2018

Charlie's Gay-ngels

All the lesbian, bi, trans, queer women, who’re independent – throw your hands up at me! Last week news of the new “Charlie’s Angels” film reboot was unleashed. And none of other than “so gay, dude” Kristen Stewart has been cast as one of the trio of Angels. Yes, you read that right, an out queer woman has been cast in one of the most iconic (and campy, don’t forget campy) female action franchises of all time.

I watched some of the original series, albeit in repeats (Kate Jackson, my babygay eyes saw you). And I unabashedly loved the movie adaptations from the early 2000s (even though they were, objectively, not good). And I think I tried to watch the TV series reboot from the early 2010s (and it was, objectively, quite bad).

But there’s just something about the alchemy of bringing a bunch of women together to do kick-ass things in an outrageous way that just appeals to my inner pop culture fangirl. Also, there was this scene from the Cameron-Drew-Lucy franchise that left an indelible impression.

The reboot film is being directed and co-written by Elizabeth Banks, who will also give the world its first female Bosley. Besides K-Stew it will star Naomi Scott – who most recently played the Pink Ranger (a.k.a. not the gay lady one) in the new “Power Rangers” film and will star as Jasmine in Disney's upcoming “Aladdin” remake – and British relative newcomer Ella Balinska.

Now this group of Angels skews quite young. K-Stew is the oldest by a bit at 28. And I have no idea if they’ll make her Angel queer – but I certainly hope they give it real consideration. Because it is 2018 and if a racist game show host can be president, then we deserve at least one gay Angel in return. I mean, look at K-Stew. She’s the andro-butch Angel of young queer girls dreams as is. Make it so, Hollywood.

p.s. And while I’m asking for things, cab we get a Beyoncé, Janelle Monae and Hayley Kiyoko to do a new version of “Independent Woman” for the movie? K, thx.

Friday, July 27, 2018

My Weekend Vote

Gosh, I miss Michelle Obama. But, man, does it only make me love her more when she spearheads a project to get people to register and vote, called When We All Vote. I have never understood people who do not vote. This is your chance. This is how democracy works. And democracy is not a spectator sport. And for everyone who says “My vote doesn’t matter,” let me remind you about the 79,646 votes in three states who put us where we are today. In a country of 325.7 million people that is nothing. Yet if each one of those 79,646 people had decided to stay home instead, or better yet if 79,647 Democratic voters had decided to go to the polls instead, we would be in an entirely different world. So get registered, check if your registration is current and get your ass to the ballot box for every election. Not just the midterms. Not just the presidential years. But each election matters and is your chance to mold the world you want to see. Because if you don’t, you are letting those 79,646 (and then some) yahoos decide your fate instead. Happy weekend and exercise your right to vote, all.

Thursday, July 26, 2018

The MXfits

Honestly, I could watch a whole series of this. In six short minutes (an a little change) it crafts compelling characters, starts engaging plotlines, touches on relevant issues, and displays more humor and heart than all of the “Transformers” movies put together. And it’s a reminder that we need to give more diverse artists the chance to shine. The short comes from Brazilian filmmaker Natalia Leite, who made her feature film debut in 2015 with “Bare” (a.k.a. the film where Quinn Fabray Dianna Agron falls in love with Paz de la Huerta). She worked with her mento, “Vida” creator Tanya Saracho, on the project. And the professionalism shows.

Each time I hear of another totally unknown white guy who is being handed the reigns to a major motion picture franchise, I sigh. Sure, they’ll probably do fine. But you never know if a woman of a POC or an LGBTQ person might be fucking amazing instead – if only you give them a chance.

And, guess what, they can. Because “Kiki and the MXfits” is a short film cleverly crafted like a series trailer. And Leite has said she would be open to turning it into a long-form series. So get on it, Hollywood. I need to find out what Kiki and her MXfits get up to next.

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Write What You Know

Well, now, isn’t this a treat. A period piece prestige drama featuring a high-profile star about a real-life female trailblazer who also happened to be bisexual woman who had long-term relationships with other women and does not appear to be shying away from the gay bits. Like I said, a rare treat. Sure, I’m not crazy about all the dude taking credit for a woman’s work stuff – but then women have been not crazy about dudes taking credit for their work since, I don’t know, the beginning of time. What I am crazy about is seeing Keira Knightley play the fascinating Noble Prize nominated French author Colette. It’s also a reminder that the issues we face today, they’re not new. Sure, some things have changed and even for the better. But the struggle to be seen as equal, to be given respect and to be allowed to be exactly who we are in this world is always with us. Oh, and Keira should always, always wear suits like that. Always.

Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Into Every Generation...

So, about that Buffy reboot. Late last week it was revealed that a reboot of “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” with a black actress stepping into the role of the eponymous heroine. Obviously, the amount of feelings about this were great. From “Oh no!” to “Oh yes!” and “Wait, what?” and “Wait, really?”

Joss Whedon will serve as executive producer and Monica Owusu-Breen has signed on as showrunner and will write the pilot. You might not think you’re familiar with Owusu-Breen’s work, but you most certainly are with her work. She has written and produced for “Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.,” “Fringe,” “Lost,” “Brothers & Sisters,” “Alias” and “Charmed.” Most recently she created “Midnight, Texas.” So there’s some good stuff there for sure – but I gave “Midnight, Texas” an honest shot and could not recommend it. So, hm.

According to The Hollywood Reporter, “the new Buffy will be richly diverse, with some aspects of the series, like the flagship, seen as metaphors for issues facing society today.”

I am 100 percent down for a diverse Buffy. And I am 100 percent down for a woman of color helming the project. But, here’s the thing, why a reboot?

I would much rather we see a passing of the torch – or more like stake – than retell the original story again. Why not acknowledge the passage of time and start over with a new slayer? We all know into every generation a Slayer is born. It’s already built into the mythology. It’s in the damn credits. It’s a major part of the show. New Slayers, all the time, like clockwork.

Sure, at the end of Buffy they turned all of the Potentials into Slayers. But there are clever and smart ways to explain that. Plus, it would be pretty kickass to follow one Slayer, but then have other Slayers pop in sometimes. Why not? How much more “richly diverse” can you get than that? Or, pretend the spell was broken and start over from one again.

But to take a series as iconic as Buffy and just reboot it instead of continuing the story doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to me. Have we learned nothing from the “Heathers” reboot? Let next generation show how they wield the strength and skill to fight the vampires, demons, and the forces of darkness. And she could still be named Buffy, after one of the greatest Slayers of all time.

Monday, July 23, 2018

Doctor Yes

Oh, I get it. This is what those kids felt like when they walked into Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory for the first time. Pure wonder, pure imagination, so much excitement. All the idiot fanboys who soiled their knickers when Jodie Whittaker was announced as the Thirteenth Doctor can kindly fuck off and continue to live their miserable joyless lives in silence. No one wants to hear it. We’re too busy exploring new corners of the universes with The Doctor. (And, with any luck, the Doctor's Wife. Ahem.)

Friday, July 20, 2018

My Weekend Crush

Guys, we need this. We really, really need this. “Wynonna Earp” returns tonight. Well, it actually returned Monday night in a special sneak preview. But tonight it will be official official premiere with bonus material and additional scenes. Also, no harm can come from watching an episode of “Wynonna Earp” twice. No harm, indeed.

Look, the world is pretty terrible right now. Each headline is a new horror. The continual combination of rage and despair everyone with a functioning sense of empathy feels right now is beyond exhausting.

But through it all it’s important to remember that self-care is crucial. We can’t resist when we’re debilitated by our weariness. And one of the ways I care for myself is watching shows I truly enjoy. So this year shows like “Killing Eve” and “The Good Place” and “The Great British Bake Off” have been a salve to the soul.

And now, here comes Wynonna. I don’t need to remind you why this show is so fun and fantastic. You know, you know it down to your bones. So bring on the crazy chick with a gun and WayHaught sexy adorableness and all the demonic shenanigans this show can bring. If you caught the sneak peek you know we’re in for a wild ride and so much great hair. Bring it, Wynonna et al. We’re so glad to have you back. Happy Earping weekend, all.

Thursday, July 19, 2018

Let's Go, Lesbians!

Look, there’s not a lot to feel delighted about these days. But I am genuinely delighted by the “Let’s Go, Lesbians!” meme. Like, I can’t help but find it oddly delightful. Or maybe I just wish I could run around the streets like Billy Eichner with a “pack of wild lesbians.” I mean, wouldn’t that be the ultimate lesbo street cred?

Now, granted, one could take issue with the idea that there is something inherently funny about a pack of wild lesbians running through the streets. But, lez b honest, a pack of wild lesbians running through the streets is pretty funny. Plus would not thinking so only perpetuate that humorless lesbian trope?

Vulture has been so kind as to rate all the “Let’s Go, Lesbians!” memes. I have to agree, the first “Avengers”-meme remains the best. Like, obviously, we’re all a bunch of superheroes jauntily running to save the day, duh.

Though, it’s hard to beat the original. Watching “Billy On the Street” and his pack of wild lesbians is a treat not to be missed. Plus, I love that us lesbians are being used as the ultimate arbiter of who is sexier. Though, uh, what’s up with any lesbian who thinks Ronald Reagan is sexier than Adam Scott? That’s a point off your lesbo street cred license, for sure.

Wednesday, July 18, 2018

My My, How Can I Resist You?

I want to live inside this picture. Seriously. Who wouldn’t want to live inside a never-ending kiss between Meryl Streep and Cher? I mean, it’s Meryl freakin’ Streep and freakin’ Cher. Now, lest you think Meryl and Cher’s romance is a new one courtesy “Mamma Mia! 2,” let me set you gay in a correct way (you know, the fabulous alternative to straight).

Some of you may remember the two actresses first worked together back in 1983 on “Silkwood.” Meryl plays the eponymous nuclear whistleblower Karen Silkwood and Cher played her lesbian roommate and coworker Diana Scarwid Dolly Pelliker. Yes, really, her lesbian roommate. And they did stuff like this in the movie. Ah, “roommates” – that old chestnut.

But, take heart, because it wasn’t just a one-time thing that got rekindled on the red carpet 35 years later. Meryl and Cher canoodled in the interim. Back in 2003 they got touchy feely at the premiere for – of all things – “Stuck on You.” Believe it or not, they both have small roles in the film. Obviously, they loved each other’s company to appear in a Farrelly brothers film. You know, like “roommates.”

Look, all I’m saying is Meryl and Cher are the couple we never realized we desperately needed. So thanks, ladies, for reminding us of that old “roommate” magic.

Tuesday, July 17, 2018

RBG Forever

Look, I don’t know much, but I know we have to protect Ruth Bader Ginsburg at all costs. Like is there some kind of special spell we could cast, my wiccan friends? I’m equal parts asking and begging. After a documentary about the remarkable RBG came out earlier this year, now there’s a biopic about her early years starring Felicity Jones as the woman herself. And, again, it is a reminder that the things we consider ancient history are far from ancient or history. In her 85 years, RBG has seen – and helped lead – a practical revolution for women in this country. And we should all be damned if her hard work and advocacy is allowed to slip away under this abysmal administration. So, like I was saying, everyone join hands and grow our RBG protection circle.

Monday, July 16, 2018

The First Post

I have been pretty excited about “The Miseducation of Cameron Post” movie since it was announced. And now that the first trailer has been released, that excitement has only grown. And it’s proof all those studios who hemmed and hawed missed the fuck out. Their loss is our gain. While even three years ago a story like this might have feel like a quaint historical relic, today it is a reminder we are never too far away from people thinking what we are is wrong and must be fixed.

Friday, July 13, 2018

My Weekend Fuck Donald Trump

Look, us Friends of Dorothy have known forever that Donald Trump is a bad person. None of us had to be convinced of his greed or his narcissism or his cruelty or his ignorance. None of us were bamboozled by his bluster or his “billions.” Us queers knew, even way back when, that he was a monster. And we let it be known. In fact, you could say, we warned you.

Need proof? Well, how about this 1989 protest by ACT UP at Trump Tower. Yes, you read that right, 1-9-8-9. Almost 30 years ago queer activists were out there telling the world that this man was garbage. Absolute and complete garbage.

Now that we’ve gotten where we are, with Trump on the verge of appointing his second lifetime appointment to the Supreme Court, I can’t help but think what is Straight White America had listened when we warned them? What is Straight White America had heeded the desperate plea of vulnerable communities (your POC neighbors, your immigrant neighbors, your Muslim neighbors, your female neighbors, your LGBTQ neighbors) instead of being disinterested in our fates. What is Straight White America had cared about what happened to us as much as themselves?

Well, we’ll never know. But we can only hope, as his horrible, terrible man gets to turn back the legal landscape in our country for at least the next generation, that they’ve learned their lesson. Happy weekend and Fuck Donald Trump, all.

Thursday, July 12, 2018

When I Am An Old Lesbian I Will Listen To Hayley

Since we were talking about music already, here is something that might be relevant to your interests. Well, now this is sweet. Older lesbians learning about Hayley Kiyoko remind me of me anytime I try to read the MTV Movie Awards celebrity guest list. Who? What? Aw, that’s cute. And it is, it is quite cute. Never mind purple, when I am an old lesbian I will listen to Hayley.

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

The Itsy Bitsy Cersei

I have never related to anything more in my life than Lena Headey running away from a man trying to show her a spider. In fact, if I was her I would have gone all Cersei Lannister on the situation. BURN IT ALL DOWN WITH WILDFIRE, CERSEI, BURN IT ALL DOWN.

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Brooklyn Hi-Hi

I’ve decided to give “Brooklyn Nine-Nine” a try. Now that it has been rescued by NBC, I think it just might be worth enduring Andy Samberg to see Stephanie Beatriz and Gina Rodriguez flirt with one another. But then, almost anything is worth watching to see Stephanie Beatriz and Gina Rodriguez flirt with one another. More of this on NBC, show. More of this. And, you know, more big, badass and bi Det. Rosa Diaz in general, please.

Monday, July 09, 2018

Music Monday: Rachel Cantu Edition

In my ongoing and endless mission to gay up your lives, here is Rachel Cantu’s new song, “Run Free.” The very talented singer-songwriter is married to the also very, talented TV writer-producer Liz Feldman (of “Ellen” and “This Just Out” and “2 Broke Girls” fame). And this song just makes me happy. And is super gay. So what more could you want from a little Monday Music?

Friday, July 06, 2018

My Weekend Crush

I like Tessa Thompson a lot. Like a lot a lot. I’ve seen her in “Thor: Ragnarok,” and “Westworld” and “Selma” and even an episode of “Rizzoli & Isles” among other things over the years. And one of her more remarkable abilities is to chameleon herself into her roles. Put Julia Roberts in any role and you’re always like, “OK, we get it, you’re Julia Roberts.” But with Tessa you watch her for a while and then go, “Oh yeah, that’s Tessa.” That’s a good quality to have for an actor. A very good quality.

She has been described as “an unapologetic, complex actress, who seeks out unapologetic, complex characters.” Nowhere is this more evident than in her personal life, where she had championed Time’s Up and other progressive, feminist movements. And, of course, there’s her veryclose relationships with Janelle Monae.

Last week Tessa took another big step and came out as bisexual in a cover story for the fashion magazine Net-a-Porter. She said:

“I can take things for granted because of my family – it’s so free and you can be anything that you want to be. I’m attracted to men and also to women. If I bring a woman home, [or] a man, we don’t even have to have the discussion.”
And about her relationship with also recently out Janelle and her Vagina Pants she said:
“We love each other deeply. We’re so close, we vibrate on the same frequency. If people want to speculate about what we are, that’s okay. It doesn’t bother me.”
Now, of course, folks ran with the “we love each other deeply” part as confirmation they’re in a relationship. But Tessa herself put on some brakes and tweeted:

Two things: 1) Good for her for coming out! And 2) Good for all of us for her coming out! Whenever a famous person comes out it makes us all feel a little less along. Those of us who, as Hannah Gadsby would say, exist in the margins, each person who steps up to speak her or his or their truth is another acknowledgment of our shared humanity. It’s that connection we crave.

So congratulations, Tessa. And thank you. Happy weekend, all.

ETA: It should go without saying that just as homophobia is not welcome here, neither is biphobia. But, alas, it seems it does need to be said. Biphobia is unacceptable. Nor, while we are at it, is transphobia. Making broad and hateful generalizations on an entire group of people based on stereotypes about their sexual orientation or gender identity is everything I stand against. If you cannot accept and embrace the entire spectrums of the LGBTQ community then please find another blog and/or planet to frequent. (Note: Blogger has stopped notifying when I receive new comments, so I do not see all of the posts as quickly as I used to, hence the delay in response. My apologies.)

Thursday, July 05, 2018

To The Max

True confession, I binged all of the last season of “Orange Is the New Black” over the weekend it debuted last June – except the final episode. And to this day I still haven’t watched the finale. I just haven’t felt inspired enough to care. Last season was problematic for me, for many reasons. Having an entire season play out over the few days of the prison riot was…a choice. In the end it felt like a painful way to prolong our agony. But that’s what happens sometimes when writers make the creative choices to prove a point but instead kill the heart of their show (see: Poussey Washington and Dana Fairbanks). So now I don’t know how I feel about OITNB’s upcoming season. Given the change in locale (from minimum to max) I am going to assume things didn’t go so hot for the ladies of Litchfield in that last episode. But the question remains, do I care enough to follow them to the even bigger house? Time will tell when it returns later this month. But at least we get some new credits. The song, however, remains the same. (So if you are one of those skip the credits types, proceed as normal.)

Wednesday, July 04, 2018

America! America! America!

I can think of nothing more patriotic on this Fourth Of July than encouraging Americans to get involved in our political system. Be that voting, volunteering, donating or running for office yourself, do something. Democracy is not a spectator sport. And, as we have seen since January 2017, if not carefully tended and rigorously watched over, our democracy can be compromised. And compromised quite easily, as this past week has shown us. The sense of security we have had for far too long about the moral arc of the universe always bending toward justice has been revealed as overly optimistic. It won’t bend unless we make it bend. That means everyone must reach out and grab hold and fight for what we believe this country should be with all of our might.

Which brings me to today’s post. This is a very good political ad. I know I have been posting a couple of these lately, but it is only to highlight some of the great, smart, and female candidates running for office this year. MJ Hegar is running against a Tea Party Republican in Texas. She served as a major in the US Air Force and the Air National Guard and completed three tours of duty in Afghanistan. She also has one of the very best political ads I’ve seen in a long time. And even if you don’t live in Texas and get to vote for her, I hope you are getting excited about voting these bastards out and finally putting a check on the ignorant, hateful, corrupt asshole in the Oval Office. We can vote them out, and we can replace them with people like MJ Hegar.

For the love of all that is good, please register and vote in the midterms. I am not above begging.

Tuesday, July 03, 2018

You're Standing on My Reboot

Daria and her combat boots were a big part of my youth. Her deadpan cynicism and piercing intelligence remain aspirational – and I still have a thing for combat boots, too. I own the complete box set and am still cranky they wouldn’t get the rights to the real music. But I digress. When I heard late last month that they were planning on rebooting the “Daria” series, I was a) excited, and b) worried. Excited because Daria Morgendorffer ranks among Liz Lemon, Leslie Knope, Buffy Summers, Wonder Woman and Princess Leia as my favorite fictional female characters of all time. Worried because our current reboot fever has a spotty record at best.

I’m encouraged that the new Daria series comes from TV writer Grace Edwards, whose past credits include “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” and “Inside Amy Shumer,” two shows I’ve enjoyed greatly. The new series will be called “Daria and Jodie,” and focus on Daria’s friendship with Jodie Landon, who in the original series was a stand-out student who often chaffed against having to be the model minority at the school (along with her football star boyfriend Mack). I haven’t seen any mention of Jane Lane, but dammit all she’d better be there, too. Daria without Jane is no Daria at all. Oh, and definitely make Jane gay in the new series. Definitely.

Monday, July 02, 2018

Naked Lady Monday: Sue & Megan Edition

Remember how I always say representations matters? Well, highly toned and incredibly chiseled representation matters, too. Ahem. Fans of everyone’s favorite not-so guilty pleasure, ESPN The Body Issue, were treated to the first-ever out gay couple on its cover this year. Pro basketball’s Sue Bird and pro soccer’s Megan Rapinoe graced the cover and pages of The Body Issue together. And it was good, it was very, very good.

As Megan told the magazine in the accompanying interview:

“I think neither of us really wants to just do things and be like, ‘We're the gay couple.’ But to have this really unique vehicle to actually do that, to celebrate who we are in our sport, but also the fact that we'll be the first gay couple, is pretty special. It's pretty amazing to think about, especially in the times we're in. Just think of how far we've come, but also the current climate and defiance in the face of that. Not only are we female athletes, but we're dating as well. It's kind of badass.”

Have I mentioned this photo shoot, even the strange lost in the forest shots, are very good? Because it is.

Friday, June 29, 2018

My Weekend Crush

Rarely has the phrase, “What a dame,” been leveled with such accuracy as at Emma Thompson. Now, my love for Emma is well documented. I am well-versed in all of her nuanced awesomeness – from demanding women always eat dessert to her insistence she never fiddle with her face to her apology for initially signing that petition, to her love of big words, to her hate of Trump, to her steadfast support of women everywhere and all-around delightfulness in general. And now, all of that amazing is a full dame. Like, capital D, comes from the queen, Dame. And, it certainly couldn’t have happened to a nicer dame. Happy weekend, all.

p.s. Say it with me, Dame Emma Freakin’ Thompson.

Thursday, June 28, 2018

Gender Fuck Thursday: My Dear Watson Edition

I don’t know if you’ve been watching “Elementary” or not this season. But you should be. One, because it’s so much better and less dude-centric than the Brit’s “Sherlock.” And two because Lucy Liu continues to absolutely slay it with her impeccable suit game. Now I’ve talked about Lucy’s suits before. About two years ago, to be exact. And her suits have only gotten better since then. While she used to prefer frillier, flouncier ties and scarves, these days she has gone straight-up traditional suit-and-tie (and, fine, one bow tie) and It is so good. But, you know, don’t take my word for it. See and deduce for yourself, kittens.

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Call Me By Nanette's Name

On Sunday morning of Pride Weekend, when all the rest of the gays were brunching, I watched Hannah Gadsby’s new Netflix comedy special “Nanette” with some friends in their living room. And, apologies to the brunch set, but it was the absolute gayest shit I could have done at that particular moment in time. More gay than watching a parade and much more gay than marching behind a corporate sponsor in a parade. Now, let’s back track and bit and see how we got here.

Last week a bunch of you posted or commented or replied to me that I had to watch this “Nanette” business. I had no idea what this “Nanette” business was, but The Internet told me to do it and I’ve never been burned by The Internet before. Wait, hold up, strike that and reverse it.

Still, I swallowed my trepidation and watched it on Pride Sunday no less. And, wow. Like, I could not feel that “wow” any more deeply. I believe “Nanette” is what mainstream critics call a “tour de force.” Or, you know, it would be if mainstream critics generally called the things that out lesbian, gender-nonconforming comics who aren’t wafer-thin and wear specs do a “tour de force.”

But that is exactly what her special is. It’s more than just an hour and nine minutes of comedy. It’s an hour and nine minutes of deconstructing why one of the most popular forms of comedy (self-deprecating humor, specifically) actually hurts the people who exist in the margins. You know us – the people of color, the queer people, the trans people, the gender nonconforming people, the women people. Really, the margins are anyone who isn’t our society’s stubborn and inaccurate default of “straight white male.”

“Nanette,” like Cameron Esposito’s also excellent “Rape Jokes” (which actually I had us watch after “Nanette” Sunday morning as an comedy enlightenment double feature), dares its audience to do more than laugh. It dares us to think. To think about ourselves. To think about the world. To step outside of the bubble we put ourselves in every day just to make it through or to make it easier or to reaffirm whatever we already believe to be the unshakeable truth and just marinate in someone else’s life and struggle.

I wasn’t familiar with Hannah Gadsby before I watched “Nanette.” So I cannot thank those of you enough who brought her to my attention. To quote Cameron from my double-header, “The internet is good?” Because what Hannah did was a lot more than just make me laugh that Sunday morning. She reaffirmed to me that to be an out queer woman in this world – or anyone else who exists in the margins – means we have to assert our agency with every last fiber of our bodies. And to do that we have to claim and tell our stories in a way that is honest and inclusive. Because if we don’t, if we fall into the same easy narrative traps, we are simply making the lives of those who already have it the easiest easier.

The world needs to marinate in the tension it has unleashed in our current, untenable political climate. To ban an entire ethnicity and/or religion of people from seeking refuge on our shores – that’s uncivilized and the people who do such a thing should feel tense. To forcibly rip people’s children away and put them in cages for seeking a better life here – that’s uncivilized and the people who do such a thing should feel tense.

Laughter (and penicillin) may be the best medicine, but the truth will set you free. Stop letting bad people off the hook. Also stop letting good people who just don’t like to think about the inherent institutional advantages they’ve been given because of the color of their skin or because of their socioeconomic status not think about those inherent institutional advantages.

The world is a tense place right now, and we shouldn’t pretend otherwise. We can laugh at that together, sure, but also acknowledge that for so many of us just feeling “tense” is a luxury. If we could only feel a little tense and not supremely terrified and profoundly furious at everything that is unfolding before our eyes.

The only way to make us less afraid of each other, less inclined to hate everything that is different is to really think about someone else’s life. Or, just as important, really think about yours and how you got where you are today. Yeah, “Nanette” is intense. But the world is intense. And to pretend otherwise is an easy laugh in a world that has already had far too many easy laugh at the expense those who can afford it the least.

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Tank Top Tuesday: Terminator Edition

These photos of Mackenzie Davis and her tank top are makings me…feel things. The first images from the “Terminator 6” set have leaked out and they’re good. They’re really good. They’re like, damn, I want to watch a Terminator movie again good.

And, even better still, Linda Hamilton is back as Sarah Connor. With a shotgun. BE STILL MY HEART.

Now you may remember Mackenzie from such things as the best episode of “Black Mirror” ever. Though, admittedly, going form San Junipero to Skynet is actually…not that big a leap. And I am thrilled that the new Terminator appears to be bringing its female leads back into prime tank top form. I mean, it is tradition, after all.

Monday, June 25, 2018

Music Monday: The Gay Lady Story

I thought I’d come off my Pride Weekend with a little throwback. Back to more than six years ago when Sara Ramirez singing this song was just nice and lovely. But now, after she came out as bisexual and gave herself a bona fide alternative lifestyle haircut, it contains that many more multitudes. Here is an out bi woman (Sara) singing a song she performed as her character an out queer woman (Callie Torres) which was originally sung by an out lesbian woman (Brandi Carlile). Whew, it’s almost like gay lady inception. But, you know, in a good way.

Friday, June 22, 2018

My Weekend Crush

Comedy is hard. Comedy is really, really hard. Comedy that says something important in addition to being funny? There aren’t enough reallys to express how hard that is. But, guess what, Cameron Esposito has done it. Her new special “Rape Jokes” has an intentionally provocative name because we live in intentionally provocative times. But more than that it is about asserting one’s agency, particularly as a sexual assault survivor, and addressing our pervasive rape culture.

Cameron wrote and produced the special herself, without a network or a label behind her. Even better yet, proceeds benefit RAINN, the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence advocacy group. Released just last week she has already raised $35,000 for RAINN and counting. You can stream it for free or better yet buy it to download at

What makes “Rape Jokes” extraordinary is 1) It’s funny, really damn funny, and 2) It has something more to say than just being funny. You know, that thing I mentioned before that takes an infinite number of “reallys” to make happen because of its degree of difficulty? Yeah, she did that. She talks about Big Picture things from a place of great humor and deep understanding and personal experience – sexual assault, the patriarchy, queer identity, and more. She uses her platform to do more than just make us laugh, she wants us to think.

I have been lucky enough to see Cameron and her equally hilarious and talented wife Rhea Butcher live twice. And both times were excellent, wonderful and highly recommendable. But more than that, it felt great leaving the theater each time because in addition to laugh, we thought. We thought about what they had said, through the laughter. Really thought about it. And, you know what, it feels good to think. And it feels good to reflect. Because it always feels good to care about something other than yourself.

So I can’t think of a better Weekend Crush as I head into Pride Weekend here. Be loud, be proud, be thoughtful, be funny. Care about other people and the world around you. And have a happy Pride Weekend, all.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

Last Dance

I don’t play videogames, unless you count the little procrastination enabling apps on my phone. Now, I have nothing against videogames or gamers or videos or any combination of the terms (GamerGaters, though, are another matter entirely). To be honest mostly I lack the hand-eye coordination, time and patience to play videogames. But, I do appreciate videogames and gamers – particularly lady gamers because, in case you haven’t noticed, I’m all about the ladies.

Now, videogames that let you play as queer characters aren’t necessarily new. Game franchises like “Final Fantasy” and “Mass Effect” and “Fallout” have all allowed for same-sex romances and relationships. And the more recent “Life Is Strange” series is essentially just lesbian feelings games.

But the unveiling of the “Last of Us II” trailer this week at E3 2018 presentation was something different. This isn’t a small indie label, this is freaking Sony. And it wasn’t hinted or alluded or whispered that shit was gonna get gay. It was one of the main selling point. Well, that and all the brutal hand-to-hand combat. But seriously, how wonderful. A videogame predicated (or at least sold) based on a same-sex relationship between two young women. Post-apocalyptic romance for the masses! And machetes!

What makes this even better is they used real actresses to capture the motion of Ellie and Dina. And what actresses they used. None other than Shannon Woodward (of “Raising Hope” and “Westworld” fame) played Dina and Ashley Johnson (from “the Avengers” and “Blindspot” and “The Killing”) played Ellie.

Is this what all videogame development is like? Ladies in motion-capture suits slow dancing and making out? Because if so I am clearly in the wrong field.

Still, even if you are not sold on the game itself, the kiss is worth a watch (and rewatch and rewatch some more). Luckily someone was kind enough to cut the trailer to be just a nice, lovely kiss (without the knives to the jugular) in between.

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Save the Children (Fuck Donald Trump)

I had a different post planned for today. It was light and hopefully fun and talked about queer representation in pop culture – which if you’ve been paying even a little bit of attention these past 12-and-counting years and counting is my absolute favorite thing to talk about. But I’ve postponed that small joy because I basically feel like screaming all of the time. This year, I’ve started waking up around 7 a.m. every single day. No alarm clock, no loud noises. Just my body jolting awake and bracing for horror. Now I need to give you a little context, I have been throughout the entirety of my life until this point a world champion sleeper inner. I am a night owl by nature and it used to be nothing for me to sleep in until 10, 11 and even noon on a good day. I also have the luxury of a job that I do not have to go in to until mid-morning. But now I can’t remember the last time I’ve slept in past 7:30 a.m., let alone 8 a.m. Now, I know, whomp-whomp for my fucked up circadian rhythms and inability to lounge in bed all day like I used to.

But the longer the Trump administration grind on and grinds down the basic tenant of our democracy, the worse I’ve slept. I thought I’d gotten used to waking up to a new, fresh hell every day during the 2016 presidential election. But, woo-doggies, was I wrong. Nothing compares to opening your eyes every day and dreading what new, monstrous thing this administrations has done.

Ban Muslims from entering the country? Check! Claim there are “very fine people” among a torch-bearing crowd of white supremacists and neo-Nazis who ran over a woman and killed her? You betcha! Give away $1.5 trillion in tax cuts to the millionaires, billionaires and corporations? Heck yes, rich people are the only ones who know how to handle money anyway, duh! Stack the federal courts with right-wing nutjobs, some of whom have never even tried a case in their lives, to serve lifetime appointments? You bet your Merrick Garland he has! Pull out of UNESCO, an organization dedicated to building “peace through international cooperation in education, the sciences and culture.” Fuck off, nobody needs culture, science or education! Pull out of the UN Human Rights Council and then call it “a protector of human rights abusers.” Totally, we love using the “I know you are, but what am I”-defense in international relations, we just used it yesterday!

But forcibly separating parents from their children and then putting those children in cages? Goddammit all to fucking hell, is there no end to the levels of evil for this administration?

I don’t know how you can listen to the plaintive wails of small children screaming for their mothers and fathers and not think we are at a tipping point as a nation. We currently have 11,785 children in custody. CHILDREN. IN. CUSTODY. Either we accept we are a country that rips sobbing children away from their parents or we don’t – and we stop it. We have to stop it.

The prevailing policy philosophy of the Trump administration has been cruelty, plain and simple. He is a cruel, hateful, ignorant man and we are all trapped in his narcissistic personality disorder feedback loop. And I do not know how we do not all just burst into tears at any given moment.

But then, we knew that about him before a minority of voters (by three million, ahem) in this country elected him. We were warned. Yet still, 52 percent of white women voted for him (and 62 percent of white men, thanks again, white dudes).

So what makes me almost as inconsolable, distraught and furious is that a significant portion of the American populace is not only OK with all of this, they’re thrilled. They’re downright gleeful. Or they just don’t care enough about people who are different than themselves to worry about caring. In fact, the latest Gallup poll shows 45 percent of Americans think he’s doing a great job. That’s nearly half of all American. Fuck, that’s depressing.

So what can we do? Keep caring. Give money to organizations that are fighting Trump. Call your senator and representative. Show up at the marches, show up at the Families Belong Together March. Talk to your racist relatives. Register to vote and vote for a Democrat in November. Care. Care more about your immigrant neighbor. Care more about your Muslim neighbor. Care more about your black or brown or queer or trans or whathaveyou neighbor. Care more about a crying child sitting in a cage filled with other crying children who just want their mommy or daddy than you do your own comfort. Care that we have a terrible human being in the highest office in all of the land and vow to do whatever you can to stop him. And then, I don’t know, maybe we’ll all be able to sleep through the night.

p.s. Fuck Trump, forever and always.