Friday, March 29, 2013

My Weekend Crush

Everybody loves a love story. They’ve built into our DNA. We crave them. They’re a reminder that for all the harsh cruelty, ugly randomness and willful inequality, there is hope and beauty to make us believe again. And it will be love, the love between Edie and Thea, that could change the world. Which really is how it should be. What changes us, moves us forward, makes us better should come from something good. Certainly, a great wrong was first done to that good. But it’s the good that will prevails and lifts us as a people up.

And we have Edith Windsor, Edie to friends and loved ones (and at this point we should all love Edie), to thank. At age 83, Edie is suing the United States of America to recognize her marriage to her wife, Thea Spyer. The two met in 1963, started dating in 1965, got engaged in 1967 and got married legally in Canada in 2007. Hell, I welled up a little just reading their New York Times wedding announcement. Thea died in 2009 after a 32-year battle with multiple sclerosis. After her death, Edie got stuck with a $363,000 federal estate tax bill. A tax she would not have to pay had her marriage to Edie been recognized by the federal government. In all she paid over $600,000 because her 42-year relationship with Thea meant nothing in the eyes of the law.

But instead of letting it stand, accepting the inequality of it all, she fought and fought and fought. As she fought she often relayed the progress of their case to the life-size portrait of Thea that hangs in her apartment. To this day she wears the circular diamond pin that Thea gave her as a stand-in for an engagement ring all those years ago. She wore it to have the highest court in the land hear her. And we’ve all heard her. She came out of the courthouse spunky as ever. Even if the justices rule to continue an injustice and uphold the Defense of Marriage Act, her bravery and determination will not be in vain. We’ve come too far to be stopped now. So thank you, Edie. Thank you for sharing your love. For showing us your heart. For fighting for us all. Happy weekend, all.

p.s. If you want to get even more inspired, watch their documentary “Edie & Thea: A Very Long Engagement.” It’s streaming on Netflix. But be warned: Come packing Kleenex.

9 comments:

Tori Collinsworth said...

Thank you so much for adding that video to this blog. I'm in tears after watching it, and so grateful for their leap of faith that oozes from them and trickles down to us all.

Anonymous said...

I saw her comments after the oral arguments at SCOTUS, and fell in love with her. She's adorable and has such a wonderful story of true love to which anyone would aspire.

Ace said...

I suspect she's the universal weekend crush this weekend. How could anyone not be a little bit in love with her? And she was really the perfect plaintiff, both from a substantive and a charm perpective. Thanks, btw, for the coverage this week.

randomramblingsandmusings said...

I'm in tears having watched that video. How could you not love this woman?

Polly said...

I'm with "Anonymous": I hadn't seen live footage of Edie until her remarks outside the court following the arguments, and I promptly fell in love.

Also? Wolfe Video is streaming the documentary as well, for anyone who would prefer to sink their live-streaming video dollars into lesbian pockets: http://www.wolfevideo.com/products/edie-thea-a-very-long-engagement/

Thank you, Snarker, for crushing on Edie for us this weekend. XO

azinthesun said...

Watch the documentary in its entirety (about 1 hour) on youtube.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tbjSjspc-dg

tlsintx said...

I just watched the documentary recently...I hope I find a love like that. :)

Maureen Hurley said...

Thank you!

Michelle said...

I watched that documentary last year, and loved it so much. It stayed with me for a long time, and even now I tear up just thinking about those ladies. I loved the honesty. I need to get a copy of it for multiple views.