The thing about Joan Jett is, while she continues to be private about her personal life, I don’t think anyone could argue that she hasn’t been clear about her sexuality. You can’t cover “Crimson and Clover” like this, in 1981 no less, and not know what you’re doing. And you can’t continue to play it throughout your career, and present as she presents throughout her career, without making it abundantly clear. Joan Jett is queer icon, period. Anyone who might think otherwise, as she told The New York Times a while back, can eat me. Happy Monday, kittens.
Monday, July 21, 2025
Friday, July 18, 2025
My Weekend Crush
I had heard about Andrea Gibson, the queer poet, before their death on Monday. But, because of the benign and, yes, also sometimes sadly malignant chaos of daily life, I had never gotten around to experiencing their work until after their passing. So, needless to say, this week has been both an education and memorial wrapped up in one. I have found myself moved to quiet tears at the ways Andrea expressed their joy for life even as it fought them tooth and nail for every extra day. But nothing, nothing, was more moving than watching Andrea read a poem they had written, “'Love Letter From the Afterlife,” for and to their wife, fellow poet Megan Falley. The small, “Jesus Christ,” from Meg at the end. May we all love and be loved so hard in our lives that it defies the afterlife. Happy weekend, all.
Thursday, July 17, 2025
Movie Review: The Old Guard 2
This time around, Andy and Co. are battling The First Immortal, Discord – played by Uma Thurman. Discord, as her name suggests is generally bad news. I mean she’s an arms dealer so that tracks. The second film plays a little faster and looser with our immortal heroes’ immortality – they seem to heal much faster than they did in the first one. And some other parts of their mythology felt forced this time out. It also shamelessly underuses KiKi Layne as Nile, who learns from Discord that she is the last Immortal.
But my biggest beef with the sequel is how it still triptoes around Andy and Quỳnh’s romantic past. Sure, we can infer they were more than just besties who kicked ass together. Or, you know, “roommates.” Yet they continue to deny us any glimmer of their sapphic past together. And, SPOILER ALERT, Charlize and Veronica Ngô don’t even kiss once. For a film series that has so lovingly has depicted – and shown – the love between Joe and Nicky, two gay men who have loved and fought side-by-side for centuries, to refuse to show us the same with Andy and Quỳnh seems incongruous to say the least. I mean, look, I get it. Girlfriend is PISSED that Andy didn’t keep looking for her. And 500 years is a long time to process your relationship during watery torture. But, still – flashbacks exist, people.
I’m still glad I watched and, SPOILERS AGAIN, there is hope that the third film might finally give us the Andy/Quỳnh goodness we deserve. I mean, was this whole film just a long lesbian makeup session? We can only hope. At least Charlize kept swinging that labrys the whole movie. And she manages to make that mullet look, well, I mean, she’s still Charlize Theron after all.
Wednesday, July 16, 2025
Engayged
Tuesday, July 15, 2025
Just Rosie
I know attacking a lesbian comedian might seem just silly. But it follows his continued assault on LGBTQ+ identity and rights. The banning of trans existence has been one of this administration's cornerstone policies. Kicking out trans service members. Refusing to use correct gender markers for trans and nonbinary citizens on passports and other federal documents. Subpoenaing medical centers that dare to provide youth gender affirming care. Erasing the “T,” and even at least some of the “B” from the Stonewall National Monument website. wonder if the so-called Log Cabin Republicans will ever feel ashamed. Or if our so-called allies who still voted for him because of the price of eggs will ever feel stupid.
Anyway, sorry, Rosie. You were right. Would that we could all get the fuck out.
Monday, July 14, 2025
Music Monday: Marching Again
Curse America and our terrible short-term memory. Because this song came out during the first Trump presidency. Remember that? Remember?? White supremacists running down protestors. Migrant mothers and fathers being torn away from their children. That Orange Turd himself telling us to maybe inject bleach during the pandemic. Yet here we are again. And it’s so much worse. Every breaking news alert edges us closer to a full-on dystopian hellscape of 77-million of our fellow citizens making. (Not my making, I voted for her.) Anyway, yeah. We made it to another week, so there’s that. Happy Monday, kittens.
Friday, July 11, 2025
My Weekend Crush
Thursday, July 10, 2025
Gender Fuck Thursday: Big Suited Sapphics
Jenna Lyons
Pinstripe always.Sarah Paulson
Oh, Paulson. You scamp.Amandla Stenberg
As I was saying about pinstripe.Lucy Dacus
Is she starring in a Cameron Crowe movie, or is she a lesbian?Renee Rapp & Towa Bird
Per my previous emails about pinstripes.Kate Moennig & Leisha Hailey
Shane and Alice 4Eva (but, platonically, because ew).Wednesday, July 09, 2025
Tori Time
I had the unstoppable urge to listen to Tori Amos yesterday. And so I listened to some Tori Amos. This also gave me the urge to pull out my old Tori Amos “Little Earthquakes” tour tee, which I have stuffed in my sentimental T-shirts box in the back of my closet. But that, that was a bridge too far. For now. I think I’ve said it before, but Tori is way overdue for some kind of Kate Bush Renaissance. Some show wants 90s street cred needs to resurrect her hits for a new generation. Or not, and we Gen Xers get to keep her all to ourselves. Also, sorry, there’s nothing especially gay about this post. Sometimes a girl just feels sentimental. (Fine, I had a crush on Tori, all that wild red hair and wilder piano playing.)
Tuesday, July 08, 2025
Tank Top Tuesday: Old Guard 2 Edition
Monday, July 07, 2025
Music Monday: Master of None
Will we ever escape the military-industrial complex? Will we ever make peace with bombs? Also, and obviously much less urgently, where has Joan Osbourne been all these years? There’s one thing I know, if God really was one of us they would be pissed. Yes, of course, God is non-binary. Speaking of which, since non-binary and trans people have now been kicked out of our Armed Forces, at least they won’t have them to kick around the never-ending war machine anymore. Gotta find the silver lining, no matter how slim. Happy Monday, kittens.
Friday, July 04, 2025
My Weekend (Our Land) Crush
I know it doesn’t always feel like it, but this land was made for you and me. And don’t you ever fucking forget it. Thanks for the reminder, Sharon Jones & Dap Kings. Again. Happy birthday, America. Do better, be better. And to the rest of the world, a lot of us are really sorry about all of our own bullshit. Happy Fourth of July weekend, all.
Thursday, July 03, 2025
It Is Horrendous, But Then It's Magnificent
You know what, I think I didn’t give Kristin Scott Thomas in Fleabag its proper icon status yesterday when discussing her new directorial debut. I’ve been a longtime KST lover, since “Four Weddings,” heck since “Bitter Moon” (hello, her and Emmanuelle Seigner in bed together *makes purring sound*). And of course, who didn’t swoon over her in “The English Patient.” But unquestionably her most memorable (while simultaneously shortest) lesbian role was as Best Woman in Business Belinda Friers in Fleabag. Her monologue to Phoebe Waller-Bridge? Yeah, let’s relive that one again. As a perimenopausal woman it gives me hope. And it’s a good reminder to, if the chance arises, you should probably snog Kristin Scott Thomas.
Wednesday, July 02, 2025
A Not Gay, But Still Gay Wedding
Wait, I thought Pride was last month. But here it is, a movie where Scarlett Johansson and Freida Pinto play a lesbian couple. Maybe the good straights are atoning for the bad ones, and this is their mea culpa. Whatever the reason, I’ll take it. “My Mother’s Wedding” is the directorial debut of Kristin Scott Thomas, who lesbians with long memories like me will remember as “a lesbian once in school” in “Four Weddings and a Funeral” and was a full-time lesbian in business in “Fleabag.” It stars ScarJo, Sienna Miller and Emily Beecham as the three daughters whose mother is getting married. I get some "Happpiest Season" vibes form the sister dynamic from the trailer, down to the one lesbian sister. And did I mention Scarlett is said sister here as a British naval officer AND Freida is her girlfriend? Look, does it bode well for this film that it took almost two years to get released and it still isn’t coming to theaters until August 8? Not necessarily. But Scarlett and Freida are lesbianing together in it, so I’ll wait as long as it takes – which, in all likelihood, is whenever it gets sent to whatever streamer I’m already paying for. What? That’s usually only a couple months, tops, these days. I’m impatient, but also frugal. Even for lesbian ScarJo.
Tuesday, July 01, 2025
Truly Hot Ones
It’s July and, oh yeah, straight people exist. So here are two very nice and nice-to-look-at straight people doing the straightest thing possible, eating super hot chicken wings. Charlize Theron and Uma Thurman did a Hot Ones challenge together to promote “The Old Guard 2.” I maintain it’s homophobic for Netflix to wait to release this movie until early July (tomorrow, to be exact). But, I will forgive them a tiny bit because they cast Charlize and Uma together and made them fight. Come on, The Bride v. Furiosa? Sometimes, it’s the little things. Like Charlize’s plain white T-shirt. Who needs a whole marketing campaign when she can just show up, eat wings and look like that?