Friday, May 27, 2016

My Weekend Crush

Well the day after a sexist, racist, homophobic, xenophobic asshat has clinched the Republican party’s nomination for president, I think we could all use a palate refresher. How about Gillian Anderson getting behind a fan-driven dream casting campaign to make her the next Bond. What I particularly love is how she obviously gives zero fucks about the misogynistic freakouts that were sure to follow from fanboys everywhere. But then that’s Gillian, she gives absolutely zero fucks about fragile male ego.

As she told Glamour UK a couple years ago:

Glamour: Do you think life is more or less complicated for women nowadays?
Anderson: I think the really complicated thing about life now is that men haven't caught up with us.
Glamour: What do you get riled about in a feminist context?
Anderson: [Sighing] A lot. I have feminist bones and when I hear things or see people react to women in certain ways I have very little tolerance.
Glamour: But don't you ever feel sorry for modern men? Not knowing whether they should help us with our bags and open doors for us or whether we'll see it as an affront?
Anderson: No. I don't feel sorry for men. I do appreciate gentlemen, though. I have a frozen shoulder at the moment and I've been on a plane twice a week since February, struggling to put my bag into the overhead compartment. Because I always do things for myself I don't ask for help, but it's amazing how people don't even offer. Only three times in two months has any man offered to help. It's sad.
No, I don’t feel sorry for men. The thing about feminism and the fight for equality of any minority group be they people of color or those with disabilities or LGBT people is the folks who already have it need to realize they aren’t losing anything. As it’s been said before by others: when you’ve lived a life accustomed to the privilege of being male or straight or white or whatever equality can feel like oppression. But, believe me, it isn’t.

Or, to allow Gillian to put it more succinctly:

Happy zero fucks given weekend, all.

p.s. I love that Gillian is keeping up this Jane Bond business.

Thursday, May 26, 2016

All the (Amazing) Ladies

Two gay ladies and the future President of the United States walk into a room. No, seriously, this happened. Yesterday Ellen had Hillary Clinton and all the ladies from the new “Ghostbusters” reboot on one show. It was like the MRA’s biggest nightmare scenario.

Anyway, because I’m not alert enough to schedule my DVR, I missed recording the show. But from the online clips it looked pretty amazing.

Like, here’s Hillary talking about the election:

And, like, here’s the “Ghostbusters” cast talking about each other:

Dammit, why didn’t I record this show? Anyway. May our futures be filled with many more happy appearances by amazing these ladies. Perhaps we should all just watch this show on repeat until Nov. 8 to avoid all the ugliness that is no doubt and sadly coming for all of them in the coming months. Oy, universe. Do better.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Otterly Adorable

Lesbian moms. Cute otters. And a forgetful fish voiced by the most famous gay lady in the universe. Yes, “Finding Dory” truly had everything I love packed into one movie. (Fine, fine – would it kill them to find cameos for Tina Fey and a Corgi puppy in there as well?)

Here are the possibly/probably gay moms (at 1:05 in above trailer):

Here is the trailer with the cute otters (at 0:20 in below trailer):

Look, I know this is a “kids” movie and all, but as I’ve happily admitted before “Finding Nemo” truly is my happy place. And if 13 years after the original the sequel comes out to include not only more Ellen, possibly/probably gay moms and so many cute otters, I say there’s not enough butter* in the world for all the popcorn I’m going to eat when I go see this movie over and over and over again.

* Don’t worry, all that butter will pair perfectly with the Male Tears I’ll be enjoying while at my other favorite movie of the summer.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Brienne of Not In This Lifetime

Look, there are a lot of issues with “Game of Thrones.” Its gender politics, its sexual politics, its equalization of the female gender. I could go on and on. But I continue to watch because, well, dragons – but also the female characters who have managed to survive are almost – to a woman – amazing. They’re complicated and interesting and incredibly kick ass. Yes, even Cersei (p.s. A rewatching of Season 1 has – surprisingly – made me even more sympathetic to her – or perhaps it was the recent rewatch of “Imagine Me & You.”)

Also (hello, spoilers if you’re two episodes behind) Khaleesi.Is.FIRE.

Anyway, what I really wanted to talk about is the unexpected (well, maybe not all that unexpected) kinship all us gay ladies have with Brienne of Tarth this season. Granted, most of us clocked her from the start. That stance, that scowl, that swordplay.

But now that Brienne has finally found Sansa and made it to The Wall, our connection to her has grown even stronger. Why? Because now she has to deal with something most of us – and really all women, gay or straight – have had to deal with: Unwanted Male Attention. Wildling commander, resident red-beard and Amazonian-lady aficionado Tormund has been making eyes at our Brienne since she got there. And the “relationship,” such that it isn’t, is entirely one-sided.

Lots of folks are already shipping it, and have named them “Torienne.” But for me, I hope they never get together. Not that there’s anything wrong with Tormund – I rather the guy (also did you know the actor is in those Wyndham hotel commercials?). But, clearly, Brienne is not into it. Not at all.

Whenever Brienne sees Tormund smiling at her it’s every lesbian everywhere when a dude hits on us at the club. Or the coffeeshop. Or the train. Or the anywhere.

Brienne, girl, we feel you. We feel you. Stay strong for all of us.

Monday, May 23, 2016

Lady & The Furbaby

How we love our furbabies. Sometimes all a gay gal needs is her cat. Or her dog. Or whatever furbaby makes her happy. Though some vintage shot of legendary lady celebrities with their pups and pusses isn’t bad either. Some celebs, like Elizabeth Taylor above, clearly can’t decide between their canine and feline friends. Others have taken sides. So please snuggle up to your own fury friends and enjoy the puppy/kitty/et al love.


Bette Davis

Judy Garland

Lauren Bacall

Sophia Loren



Billie Holiday

Brigitte Bardot

Jayne Mansfield

Josephine Baker

Marilyn Monroe


Audrey Hepburn

Frida Kahlo

So, fess up. Are you Team Cat? Team Dog? Team Both? Though, come on, is Team Deer really a thing?

Friday, May 20, 2016

My Weekend Crush

You guys, I have said it once and I will say it again, I absolutely cannot wait to buy a gazillion tickets to see “Ghostbusters” this summer. Keep crying, baby-men. Keep on crying. I hope they offer “male tears” as a popcorn flavoring in the theaters. Happy lady ghostbusting and weekend, all.

p.s. I think Leslie and Kate are totally gonna steal this movie from Melissa and Krsiten and I am totally OK with that.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Woman Trouble

If you really think about it, it’s a wonder we women folk haven’t burned the world down already. We make up more than half the world. Yet, when it comes to our place in it, we continue to be systematically subjugated by our male counterparts. This is not opinion, just fact. We earn less than men. We run less than men. We govern less than men.

In the 227 years of the presidency, we have never once had a female president. Not once. Yet somehow, mentioning our desire to perhaps see a woman be elected to the highest office in the land is playing some unfair and unreasonable “woman card.” Still it’s perfectly OK for one of our major political parties to pick a man to run for said highest office who sees casual misogyny as his signature brand. Neat-o.

Now, keep in mind, we women have only even had the legal right to vote since 1920 in this country. I would wager a few of you might have grandparents born before women’s suffrage. Almost all of you have great-grandparents who lived when we couldn’t vote. History you can still go to visit for tea.

None of this is news, which makes it all the more extraordinary. We live in a world that is patently unfair to more than half the population and quietly accepts it. This is not opinion, this is just fact. And, of course, the world is just as unfair, if not very much more so, when you add on our intersecting identities – be that as a person of color, or a LGBT person, or a person with a disability, et al. Life is just harder if you’re not a straight white male – period.

Yet, ironically, one of the most persistent political narratives this election is the power and importance of the Angry White Male voter. They flail furiously at any perceived threat to their long-standing dominance. That means when we women – or any underrepresented group – try to gain a little ground and find more equal footing, we are met with dismissal, mockery, hatred or violence. Want to wallow in despair forever? Find an “MRA” thread on Reddit.

Given all this consequential, real-world utter bullshit, it might seem silly to get riled up about something as seemingly insignificant as, say, a female-fronted TV show adapted from a female-centered book series not getting picked up became it skewed “too female.” Or, say, a blockbuster superhero franchise nixing a female villain because the toymaker thought it would hurt sales. Or, say, a trailer for a high-profile female-led movie reboot getting the most “dislikes” on YouTube ever.

All the while, it should be mentioned, over on CBS (the channel which passed over that “too female” Nancy Drew series starring Sarah Shahi) all six of the new shows ordered for next season by the network feature white male leads? But by all means you stay angry, white men – stay angry.

The thing is all of this feeds into each other. It piles on. Our cultural narrative, despite our statistical dominance, is one that dismisses women as secondary, less important, unequal. We women make up 51 percent of the population, and yet.

The simple fact is we women are on the losing end of representation and governance and ultimately control in this country. Yet, because of our prevalence, it’s easier to dismiss the insidious institutionalized sexism that exists. Many men think, how can women still be discriminated against? I see them every day. They are everywhere. They seem fine.

And, yes, some of us are fine. But fine is not the same as being truly equal. And being told we should be happy with what we have, quit whining and definitely stop talking about it is exhausting, so terribly exhausting. But also maddening. We are not crazy, we are just sick and tired of this crap.

But we cannot get beaten down by it either. We cannot simply accept it as our place. We need to keep bringing it up, both amongst ourselves and to the men in our lives.

Like, hey, don’t you think it’s crazy we’ve never had a woman president? Or, hey, don’t you think it’s nuts there are so few woman bosses? Or, hey, isn’t it whack that mom/sister/wife/best friend/coworker makes less than you just because she is a woman? Or, hey, isn’t it weird that so few major studio films are about women? Or, hey, isn’t it stupid that people think men won’t go see a movie/watch a show/read a book featuring women? Or, hey, isn’t it cuckoo bananas people still expect women to do most of the housework and child-rearing – still, today, in 2016? Because it is, all of it is.

Pointing out the fundamental inequality women face is a necessary part of progress. We should, and will, never shut up about it. It is in fact the only way we will ever achieve the equality we deserve. Feminism is how we solve this. I mean, what else can we do? Burn the whole world down?

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Foster Care

Yes, yes, I know we just talked about Jodie. But, truth be told, I have always – since well before she became my very first Weekend Crush – been a fan of Ms. Foster. Her talent both in front and behind the camera only equaled by the continual intelligence she radiates. This is a very smart woman, and a very private woman – which some might say is part of what makes her very smart. She only relents on the private part every few years when promoting a movie. And then once again we get to feast on a glut of appearances (like getting that star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame dealie), interviews (like here, here and here) and TV stops (like all these) before she retreats again into her signature brand of assured yet more silent celebrity.

Yet the journey of watching Jodie become who she is today – from those days when we thought she might never come out, to her dipping a toe into the waters, to finally that Golden moment and even getting married – have been quite something to watch.

I mean, she even made a real, live lesbian joke in her Buzzfeed interview. Did you catch it? It was when she was talking about directing on “Orange Is the New Black.”

And did Foster think it was funny that she — of all people — was directing an episode called “Lesbian Request Denied”?

“It was fantastic,” Foster said. “I laughed. It was almost as good as making a movie called The Beaver.“
Also quite something to watch? Jodie succumbing to the silliness of stardom while promoting her new movie “Money Monster.” Yes, even the great Jodie Foster wear egg and cheese on her head sometimes. Enjoy it while you can.

p.s. Also kudos for Jodie calling out the terribly overused “she was raped, that’s why” plot device from too many male writers.

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Girls Just Want Equal Rights

Cyndi Lauper has been a longtime favorite of mine and I’m sure yours. Everyone of a certain age fondly remembers she-bopping along in their rooms to “Girls Just Want to Have Fun.” And “True Colors” and “Time After Time” give me guaranteed goose bumps every time I hear her sing them anew. Part of what has always made her wonderful is her delightful weirdness and dedicated commitment to LGBT and women’s rights. So imagine my delight when she popped up last week on “The Late Late Show with James Corden” singing that same tune for an updated version of “Girls.” Now there’s a girl who never disappoints.

p.s. Remember when shot a shout-out for Dorothy Surrenders for her True Colors tour?

p.p.s. Twice?

Monday, May 16, 2016

This Is Why We Fight

I really can’t tell you how proud I am of this movement, this revolution. It is proof positive that fandom, and LGBT fandom in particular, is a powerful force to be reckoned with. And this video is a perfect example of the talent and passion of everyone in the LGBT Fans Deserve Better campaign. Storytellers have every right to tell the stories they want to tell. But fans also have a right to ask for truthful and representative stories from those storytellers. The first step toward making that symbiotic relationship between he two is to identify the issues. After the LGBT Fans Deserve Better campaign, no storyteller or show creator or series writer can honestly claim they didn’t know about the Bury Your Gays or Dead Lesbian Syndrome tropes. That’s the power of demanding better and refusing to settle for what we’ve too often been given. Never stop pushing for more and better representation. Because that’s how we’ll finally get it.