Casa of Our Own

Gender Fuck Thursday: Casa Susanna

Well, I don’t know how I missed this when it came out two years ago. But, goodness, what a reminder that our community has always come together to find safety and solidarity. As our trans family comes under relentless attack from Trump and the GOP (who are, in essence, legislating them out of existence), we must provide that safety and solidarity for them whenever we can. You can watch the full PBS documentary about the 50s-60s haven Casa Susanna in the Catskills on PBS Passport or for free on Youtube. I plan to give it a watch this weekend as inspiration for our continued fight for progress, equality and places where we can simply be ourselves. What a fucking concept.

Padma & the King

As someone who has a long track record of loving both food shows, Top Chef and Padma Lakshmi, I feel like this gossip cycle was made specifically for me. Like, do I think former Top Chef host Padma Lakshmi and former Top Chef winner Melissa King are dating? No. Do I think they definitely know what they’re doing? Yes. Do I love it anyway and will I consume every last drop of delicious drop of sapphic teasing? You’d better believe it.

Yes, yes, – I like I know just last summer I had posted about Melissa hard launching with fellow chef Nini Nguyen. Like, are we misinterpreting everyone’s couple launch Insta posts or do people need to stop being being so intentionally vague?

Anyway, rumors started to swirl after Padma and Melissa won Halloween after dressing up as Morticia and Gomez Addams. Like, name a better looking couple? You can’t.

And then this weekend they kept the rumors rumoring by posting about Padma’s “gay nails.” Melissa is not wrong. That is a very lesbian nail situation Padma has going on.

Look, in the end it doesn’t matter if these two are just friends or very good friends or roommates or whatever. What matters is two hot people are making food and taking sexy pictures together. And, during these dark times, I’ll take any light we can get. Carry on, ladies, with your whatever.

Hats Off, Ladies!

And now, the trailer. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I first read about “The Abandons.” I had hoped the series would fully utilize its amazing female superstars to their fullest abilities. I mean, Lena Headey and Gillian Anderson facing off as matriarchs of rival clans? Yes, please. But I had also sort of resigned myself (because, in the Year of Our Misery 2025, you always brace for disappointment) to them being used somewhat sparsely. Or separately. Like, how many face-offs could they have? Turns out, so many! All of them! Constantly! Lena and Gillian are basically snarling at each other in every other scene! And in big-ass hats no less! Good news two Tuesdays in a row? Please, a gal could get used to this.

Music Monday: More Lunch, Less Billionaires

More Billie? Why don’t mind if I do. After her billionaire call out, and in general just because she’s the coolest, here’s an encore of “Lunch” that is essentially just her dancing around on a cloud to a song she wrote about eating out women. Yeah, the world is on fire. But this, this song is also fire. Happy Monday, kittens.

My Weekend Crush

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This. THHHHHIIIIIIIIIIISSSSS. I want a lot more, “Ew, billionaires,” from a lot more people in this era of obscene wealth hoarding. So here’s to the Hannah Einbinders and Hayley Williamses and Billie Eilishes of the world who are saying what needs to be said in these dark times for so many. That the few (i.e. the Billionaire Class and their enablers) can continue to rule over the lives of the many continues to be the biggest con of our society. So, thanks, Billie for not letting a chance to call out Mark Zuckerberg (who was in the audience when she picked up the WSJ’s Music Innovator award last week) in person pass. Why are you a billionaire is a truly excellent questions. Eat the rich, is all I’m saying. And, given this week’s election results, I’m clearly not the only one. Happy weekend, all.

Hope Is Other People

Yesterday’s doomed post, while of course fun and unfortunately endlessly topical, belies how I actually am feeling this week. Sorry, let me correct that, how I’ve been feeling since late Tuesday night. Like many of you, this whole year has been a slow-moving (and at times, shockingly fast-moving – oh, East Wing, we miss you) disaster. So it’s been hard to find hope. Still, the Election Day results represent a clear repudiation of the unlawful cruelty (and, might I add, rampant stupidity) of the Orange Stain’s second term. And while it of course has not completely solved our Sartre problem, it at least is a reminder that not everyone is awful. Good things can still happen.

I’ve long said Trump wins by overwhelming us with terrible, awful, no good things so that it’s hard to focus on what matters. The truth is, all of it matters. But none of that will matter if we can’t fight off fascism and defend democracy. Period. Full stop.

How we get there, whether through more progressive candidates or more moderate candidates or whatever kind of candidate, is kind of immaterial. It’s that, as AOC says so succinctly here, we are all fighting the same fight. Democrats, progressives, liberals and even centrists of all stripes have one assignment right now. Fight like fucking hell. Yeah, we’re sad and we’re mad and we’re scared. But we are not afraid. May we keep electing fighters who speak for their communities everywhere. And we will remember everyone who bent the knee, especially those with the most already who were more than happy to comply in advance. Fight. Win. Repeat.

p.s. If you want a little more of that hopey-changey feeling, might I suggest Zohran Mamdani’s full victory speech. And, trust me, be sure to turn the volume up.

Doomed Together

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Hey, wanna feel doomed with me on a Wednesday but kinda in a good way? I mean, as good as us doomed can feel these days? Well then check out Kate McKinnon and Amy Poehler on Amy’s Good Hang podcast. I’m not really a podcast person, because goodness don’t we yap enough at each other as humans? But I do always enjoy the little clips I get fed by the algorithmic gods of attention from Amy’s interviews. And each interview with Kate makes me appreciate this rare and fascinating creature (homesteader, but again, in a nice way) who gifted us with a peek into her unique mind for 10 years on SNL. Whenever she has reemerged since has been an utter delight. And, if you are one of those I-love-to-watch-a-good-yap people, please enjoy Amy and Kate’s full hour-long yap here. Happy We’re Doomed, Wednesday, kittens!

Shoulda, Woulda, Hedda

Right, as I was saying, who has a Prime account and wants to invite me over to watch “Hedda?” The Tessa Thompson-starring adaptation of the Henrik Ibsen about a charismatic chaos agent gender-flips the past love. See how Tessa manipulates/bullies the marvelous Nina Hoss (also Cate Blanchett’s wife in Tár) with such ease. The film has received raves, but darnit if I still don’t want to give Jeff Bezos more of my money. So, as I was saying, who wants to invite me over?

Vacation Vixen: A King, A Queen & A Hack

I’m generally against throuples (yes, of course, do you – I mean for me). But this throuple, this throuple I’m not against. For me or them. What, the world’s on fire. Why not?

Vacation Vixen: Lena Headey

Honestly, Lena, girl. Same. No scares, only tender hearts this Halloween.

p.s. I hope you Big Hat, Big Matriarch Energy show with Gillian Anderson does well!

Vacation Vixen: Gender Fuck Edition

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Well, I might have started my birthday weekend a little early. But, even if it’s technically my party, I would never leave you without a gift. So here is Lupita Nyong'o in drag for her role in Shakespeare in the Park’s production of Twelfth Night. Happy birthday to you, too, I guess.

Space Lesbians Unite!

Hey, remember back in April when I was like, “Hmm, will this new Space Lesbian Movie (which somehow is its own genre) be any good?” I’m now leaning strongly toward, “Holy, spaceballs, it sure looks like it!” The full trailer for the animated film “Lesbian Space Princess” features the all-too relatable scenario of having to rescue your ex from evil Straight White Maliens! First a “Blue Is the Warmest Color” joke in the teaser and now an “L Word” joke? Beam me up, Space Lesbians!

p.s. This “thespian/lesbian” joke has to be a “Lebanese/lesbian” homage, no?

Tank Top Tuesday: G Flip & Friends Edition

After all these years of writing about G Flip, I guess it’s about time I saw them in real life. Crazy, I know. I’m going to see the Aussie star this weekend for my birthday, which admittedly seems pretty gay. So, you know, it’s perfect. Sheepishly, I’m still not all that familiar with their music. But I am taking a crash course now, starting with watching their “Big Ol’ Hammer” music video. I don’t know how I missed this over the summer, what with its choose your own adventure masc hotties for all wlw tastes. And in tank tops no less. And Fortune Feimster. And the little not-Shane Jacqueline Toboni. And did I mention all the tank tops? I mean, it is Tuesday.

p.s. No, I don’t know if Chrishell will be there. No, I’ve still never watched “Selling Sunset.”

Music Monday: Back to Lilith

I’m still basking in that late 90s Lilith glow. Did you get a chance to watch the Lilith Fair documentary over the weekend? I’ve decided to just revel in the nostalgia a little longer. I can’t tell is this vintage encore performance makes me feel young again or incredibly old. Maybe a little of both. And, honestly, that’s just fine. Happy Monday, kittens.